Answers from Psychologist - Mrs.Parvathy Viswanath
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Hi
.I am very afraid to go in the dark. Especially after watching some horror movies. I feel like someone chasing me. But, I know that these are all due to fear but still I am not able to overcome that. What shall I do to overcome that?
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You have the answer !! Do not watch too many horror movies!
Jokes apart, try to develop self confidence and self decipline. Practice yoga and meditation. Think positive and start believing that you are a brave person and nothing / nobody can scare you. If these steps do not help consult a professional.
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Hi doctor
My son is 3 years old. He bangs his head on to the floor whenever he is angry. Due to this heavy banging his forehead seems swelled all the time.What to do?
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Does he have any other issues like speech delay /hyperactivity ? Explain to him that its not a good behaviour and you do not like him doing this. If he stops, reward him immediately with social rewards. Consult a professional for his behaviour management. You will be taught to handle such behaviours because each child is different, one needs to know what prompts this behaviour , how many times does it occur, Where so on so forth. You can contact us as well.
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hello doctor
.My father is 56 years old. He keeps on working and working even without proper sleep.He sleeps by 8 and wakes up by 3.30 am and keeps working.I feel he is hyperactive.Is it so?
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What kind of work ? What is the nature of the work he is doing ? Some people are more active. If he is self employed its important for him that he works. If he is passionate about the work he is doing then he would enjoy doing it and probably does not get tired. He gets about 7 and a half hour of sleep which is alright. I guess his getting up at three thirty bothers you. Probably he feels that’s the right time for him to work peacefully without distraction. As long as it does not give him health problem its alright.
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Hi doctor
when i am lying down nearing sleep i hear random voices saying random things that dont make much sense , sometimes im not even in bed or anything. Like i just got one a few minutes ago while on the computer...think it only happens when im tired..
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How old are you and how long have you been experiencing this ? Please Consult a psychiatrist to rule out problems as a precautionary measure. Or you may contact us as well.
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Hi doctor
I have a girlfriend and I am in love with her. I tried to propose her but am not able to do so. When I start the matter I shiver an sweat and I leave the place. I have not been able to sleep for the past 2 months. I get up even before I reach my deep sleep. Please help me?
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How old are you ? If you are settled in life and mature enough write a letter expressing your affection for her. If you are too young wait for a while and concentrate on your studies.
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My kid is very much active.But sometimetimes I find him doing notty things like breaking all the things.I felt like hitting him.I dont know what to do.Please give me some suggestions
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How old is he ? Teach him constructive play activities. Divert his attention when he breaks things and invest his energy in activities like sports, games, painting etc. Teach him good behaviour. Hitting or beating does not help !! Throwing and breaking could be an attention seeking behaviour as well which needs behaviour training planning.
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My kid is very much active.But sometimetimes I find him doing notty things like breaking all the things.I felt like hitting him.I dont know what to do.Please give me some suggestions
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How old is he ? Teach him constructive play activities. Divert his attention when he breaks things and invest his energy in activities like sports, games, painting etc. Teach him good behaviour. Hitting or beating does not help !! Throwing and breaking could be an attention seeking behaviour as well which needs behaviour training planning.
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Hi , my daughter is 14 a happy fun loving kid. But if late she has been having mood swings and has even subject her self to making some 16 scraches on her wrist with a blade in school. Yes study pressure is there from me too , to do well . But she is great swimmer , oil canvas painter and has s cores of friends. But this incident has left us rattled she has ample love at home and being a single child every need is catered too without being too indulgent. Pl help.
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At 14, girls will experience lot of changes, physically and emotionally !!
Mood swings could be due to adolescence / peer pressure / studies. Talk to her and find out what is bothering her. Talk to her as a friend and she would confide. A mother can be a good friend and this is very important if we want our children not to hide anything from us. Once she trusts you she will open up.
Studies in not the only important thing in life, She is good in many areas, appreciate her talents and encourage her to do all this which will make her happy and more confidant . This will reflect in her overall development.
You can also seek the support of school counselor or any psychologist.
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Hello Dr, Nowadays I m getting lot of angry. I want to get rid of the angry Please tell me what can i do for this. Thank u Dr.
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You have not mentioned your age / your occupation. One needs to know the cause to find remedy. With the age many issues related to age may cause anger. Or it could be due to health issues or exhaution due to work. Remedy is case specific. If your anger is just generally due to your domestic work and people at home then follow this :
- Plan your day so that every thing works smoothly for everyone at home.
- Make sure you get adequate rest.
- Eat properly and take care of your health.
- Learn a few simple yogasanas and meditation to keep your mind at peace. Practice everyday. Just 10 minutes evey day in the morning before you start your chores is all that it needs.
Be pleasant and cheerful and you will be the happiest person on earth.
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Dear Madam,
My son is 4yrs and 8 months old.He is very active, can not sit in a place even for 2 minutes. We sent him to a preschool 2 years back. There were complaints all the time Last year we changed the school.But same problem, complaints that he is running all the time, disturbs others also. He does not write also. Can you suggest a school for him. I am very scared of approaching schools due to my previous experiences.We have been asked to take him out of the school in three schools.
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From your description it seems he may have ADHD, that is Attention Deficit hypaeractive Disorder. He has short attention span and is not able to focus in class. His hyperactivity and distractibility will interfere with his learning and would also cause disturbance in the class. The regular school teachers may not have time nor the knowledge to handle his problem. An Individualised structured programme would help him a lot in overcoming all his problems and his learning skills would also improve. He may need some therapeutic classes as well. But needs to be assessed first. But with the right kind of training he would do wonders. You can contact us for help.
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