Sweet Nothings – strictly not for Competition!!!
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- February 04, 2010 15:19
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I saw the blog from Bhavani asking us to write sweet nothings – I controlled myself not to write… But then ,how can I miss such an interesting topic ..That too mine is a love marriage !!!! and for the book readers – It is like Chetan Bhagat’s recent novel “2 states” … 
Dream :
I wanted an arranged marriage …. And visualized many “Ponnu paakarathu “ scene and gave pose to many photos to float in market .. Marriage sitting in my father’s lap , I was a big fan of Madisar and our customs….
Reality
It is my first day in my second job .. … I entered the class with some stupid Jean and a shirt , bubble gum,spex blab la .. Many guys in the class they look around and see me … I could see in their eyes – Sariyana adanga pidari .. Then I see someone coming opposite to me .. Saw him – first thing I noticed was his eyes. It was big for a guy and it was a eye with literally NO EXPRESSION .. I saw such kind of eyes for the first time !!! .. Then to cut the story short , we were always fighting in the job , we used to hate each other and we fought openly and soon became friends and soon became so called …. No need to say “ I have met my man “ 
Dream
I am a great movie fan..so I was always thinking that he will propose to me in a rainy day - with some roses and he says “ can you marry me ? I can’t think of a life without you “
Reality
He came and said “ I want to speak to you “ .. Great .. mm… going fine… … we had to settle in our office itself to speak ..thatz bad.. but still ok .. .He opens the statement saying “ See .. I know what is going on between us .. But I don’t think it is going to be possible .. We belong to two different culture and it is not going to work out ! “ Real egg on my face now .. What a proposal … 
Dream
I am going out with my lover for the first time – He is waiting for me in some place – I am going just 10 mins late and he is angry with me and tells me that he is waiting for long and when I do some konjals he forgets all that ….
Reality
We were to go for our first movie – he told me he will pick me up at 10 clk in some place… I reach there by 10.15 dreaming about his presence … .. Alas..there is no sign of him ! I am waiting till 10.45 … He comes in his bike and says “ Sorry , got late , Hope it is not a problem ! “ .. And I can’t believe myself telling him “ it is ok !!! “ 
The movie was one Malayalam Movie – I don’t understand even ABCD of Malayalam that time – I ended up watching the whole movie just seeing how people are moving from one place to another, their dress ,hair style etc !!!!!
Dream
When I go outside to restaurant with my lover , I want to sit near him ( not to touch him anyways) , talk seeing his eyes , he serves my food and enjoys talking to me than the food .
Reality
We went to a Chettinad Restaurant .. I was to sit near him – He told me to sit in the opposite chair and said “ This is convenient to speak – I cant turn my head all the time to speak if you sit next to me ! “ thatz fun..mm …what more in store ??? I don’t even see him lifting his head out of menu – he tells me this food is so nice here – why don’t u try this that blab la ??? mmm… ok .. food comes .. mm..what to say? He is a foodie – and he lives to eat , not eat to live …… I m so low already – but still carrying a smile in my face … bill came .. now I hear him saying “ Month end already…Not much of money ..y don’t u pick up the bill ??? “ Boommmmmmmmmmmmm …… onnum illa… blast in my heart …. 
Dream
Marriage day – My hubby looks at me always , winks at me and tells me that I m more beautiful than ever …. And everyone around me is teasing me saying that “ wow .. ur husband unnaiyae paakran ,kalakku“
Reality
Our marriage was after so much of struggle and it became sort of a arranged marriage – marriage in guruvayur ,reception in Trichy …..I am wearing his traditional saree – He was already there in temple waiting for me .I came fully dressed with my parents- he saw me from distance and started walking towards me …I was shocked and was so happy inside.. gave a very proud look to people around me.. he came closer and called me “ come “ ..I was on cloud nine “ He said “ r u stupid ? who asked you to put this much make up ?? it doesn’t suit u at all .. you look like one bootham “ … I was almost fainting.. My mother was calling me ( adding fuel to the fire !!) and telling me – Evalothan erunthallum u shouldn’t be talking like this during marriage – ask him to control himself – I know it is a love marriage – athukkunnu ipadiyannu ..hehheeh …. What to say man ? I had to keep a smile and act …. Marriage done ! L 
Dream
Give lots of unexpected gifts to my husband and kill him with my love – he opens my card and with watery eyes (sandhosam pa ) he tells me “ you r a boon to my life “ ….
Reality
I gave him the card on a special day “ the day when we met” and tried to write some poetry bla bla… He read it and said “ GOOD ! “ and he told me .. It is good that you gave me this – But y r wasting money on cards ????? 
There are many SWEET incidents like this !!
Mine is really a sweet “ NOTHING “ !!!!!
He is one of the most unromantic and practical person in the world … He has never said I love you ..he never told me that I m his life .. he never said he missed me … but does it matter ? I don’t think so … .But I knew it myself – He has sacrificed so much for me –
He lost his great wedding and loads of money and relatives ( if it were a normal wedding )
A scar in his parents heart for selecting someone who don’t even understand their culture
A tasty and favorite food ( non-vegetarian food ) which he could never eat from his wife’s cooking .. now he is a big fan of my Curd Rice @!!!
A daughter who speaks to him in Tamil and he has no complaints till now …
Adopted to a home where the culture is completely NEW to him and doesn’t appeal at all to him ..but he still feels at home..
Adjusting with a workaholic wife like me who is always on calls / laptop even if he is at home….
Staying calm and peaceful with someone like me who is extremely SHORT TEMPERED !
Etc etc etc …
There are many things I can keep on adding …..
But to summarize … He has never told anything – but I knew that I am his everything and I am always special in his life – I knew that I am gifted to have a husband who can still love me for what I am… Who can still bear all my tortures and gives me enough freedom and space.. Who could bear my continuous talks for the last 9 years !!!!
I don’t expect flowers, dinners or lLU messages ….. I don’t expect a romantic look and a hug … All I want is to remain with him till I die and Torture him to the max possible … ( habba..tried for a romantic ending ! successful !) 
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bhavani, nee kalakuriye.... blog poda matenu sonnavangala ellam ovvoruthara blog poda vakura.. super ma. i really appreciate you!
sayee, ennada unnoda blog la enna naane pugazhnthukarenu parkariya :)
here goes my vote for your blog and for your hubby for bearing your torture since we started this valentine's day blog contest !
adi paavi ..eppo nee ipadi self dabba aana ???
adutha blog varuthu ponnae...wait and watch - will do it on friendship day about my one closeeeeeeeeee friend... Keep guessing gals... let me know if u need this blog earlier .
Sayeeee......
LOVED it.. and I knew its gonna be something like this!!!
My votes for you unconditional love! 
hey...nice blog
i especially liked the bulb...“ r u stupid ? who asked you to put this much make up ?? it doesn’t suit u at all .. you look like one bootham “ 
Wishing ur hubby many more happy years of your torture....
Hey ur blog is very nice and funny..
I cant able to control my laugh " when he said bootham" 
Sayee,
I was not able to contol my laugh 
when i was reading ur dreams part d.
Simply superub!!
dreamz are sweet....realities are sweeter...refreshing certain memories are sweetest... best wishes for a continued sweet (n as nisha said an unconditional love) journey.
Contest-ku illa soliyum soliyam ivalo vote-aa (sayee, idhu our vidhamana arasial technicaa????)
Anywayz i am sure every one has voted for that TRUE REAL love & not just for the competition & naanum adhiyeah saiyaren
Sayee still I can't stop my laugh......U described ur life History very funny......Finally end up by ur both love......
Really nice...
catch my vote for the way u described....
Also I hav a dobt ....
r u from trichy???????????
cos i was born & grown up in Trichy????????????
Hey Super blog da.....knowing you,,,,indhaa maadri oru interesting blog dhaan edhir paarkanum.
Hmmm.....atleast you guys went for a movie before your wedding even if it was 15mins late......enakku satish super dimikki yo dimikki and we never watched one single movie before our wedding and the first movie immediately after our wedding that we watched in a cinema was BHOOTH.
I totally second your husband when it comes to sitting opposite to each other when it comes to sitting in a restaurant. You did not realise that your husband actually wanted/wants to look into your eyes and have his food :):):):)
I think tolerance is more important than romance for a happy married life.
You guys just proved it.
Good one.
Take my wishes as well as my vote
Hi
i do check my mails .. only wen my daughter is sleeping ..
th whole area will be silent ... reading ur blog i laughed so much, tht she got up and started crying...
reading ur blog was lik seeing a gud movie (lik 3 idiots)...
Anu.. arasiyal technique illai.. Me too did not post the blog in Admin's contest blog... just posted because of bhavani's continued nudges and pokes!! As you might've guessed from both our posts, these guys are not stuff for a romantic dinner!
or else.. sayee would have to add to the above blog
Dream: Won the contest and bhavani arranged for a candlelight dinner. Enjoyed the evening and had some memorable moments together ... (fill up pannikkonga.. romantic words kooda varamattenguthu!!
)
Reality: Vera velai ille? nan llam vara mudiyathu... come to earth!
Hey nice One and a good pair.
My husband also insists sitting opposite to him at restraunts. He too gives the same reason that he cannot turn his head all the time to speak to me.
PS. I am not able to control my laugh after reading sranj's comment just before my post
@ Sranj - Forgot to tell ... My hubby will come for dinner.. Mind you .. he is a foodie if not for love , at least for food ,he will come ... heheeeh
nice blog sayee :) u both hav adjusted so well coming frm different cultures... great :)
Hi, nice di. My hubby also insists on sitting face to face in restaurants. Yellam orey typo?
sayee. really a very very enjoyable read.. i was laughing while reading it.. supero super. love story nalum.. supera soli irukenga..i really liked it and my vote for that..
Hey Sayee..........I am 
.after ur blog....................but u both r made for each other..................wish ur torture should continue......................hahahaha.........enjoy..............
Sayee.. i was laughing through out.... good narration, the dream & the reality. happy torturing... u were pavam b4 mariage bcoz u got lotsa bulbs. but nw ur hubby is only pavam bcoz hez tolerating u short temper. herez my vote 4 u.
SAYEE
u started in a funny way but at the end touched our hearts. REALLY UR's ALSO (both
of u) unconditional love(both of u just giving lve (LOVE IS GIVING) . SORRY i already voted to CHITRA so according to me u also won so u better give me a treat (temple bay ecr rd ok va
)
Hey Gal, u made my day. Enjoyed reading every bit of ur story, that brought a smile on my face and helped retain it as well. I guess everywhere it is the opposites that attract. I have voted in for the life long beautiful commitment of yours.
Jayashree.. oruthadavai mattum vote poda ithenna assembly election-a... I have voted for all the stories i liked.. (i think most of them!!).. 
Nisha u knw chitra agreed to gve me treat if she wins . but na ippo SAYEE ku vote potu oru
vote difference la sayee win pannita thn i have to miss my treat ADUKUTAN nan vote podalai (i asked sayee also oru treat let me see whether she agrees
)
(pls all of u dont hit me)
Gals ....
See my title - it is not for competition ... Vote is only yo show whether you liked it or not.
anywys Jayashree - unakku illatha treata ? I will give you treat - but in turn i will need a small help - pls pick up the bill..heheheh
SAYEE treat na u only have to pay the bill .... bcoz it is treat from u to me ....(no probs some other day sure i can ....just tell me where u want .... tat too whn i luv u 
Ada paavi Jayshree - ipadi maanatha Vaangariyae.. Idhanal saghalamanaravargalukkum therivipathu ennavenral - Naanum , Jayashreeum only friends... No Dostana types..Dont get carried away by her dialogs..
NAANUM ,SAYEE ONLY GOOD FRIENDS pls dont mistake us NO DOSTANA TYPE
(Sayee dont get angry dear ,cool )
Epdi ipadi,un reality and dream compare panni 
Ennoda vaythu valiku nee kandipa marundhu vaangi kodukanum
Sayee...enjoyed readg every bit of it....i jus liked the way u had put it across....every body dreams and the reality is not the same most of the times....The way u look at it, makes the difference...and u both have made a difference to ur lives....Good one...
sayee... really enoyed ur description..... God bless u and ur beautiful family.....
i pray to God to give more patience for ur hubby....
just for fun only.....
here goes my vote for u...........
Sayee , hw i liked your blog i've told u already.
bcoz of you , i hve ended up smiling myself in kitchen while cooking . Nw, i would like to see your bootham getup foto ...
Your husband is a cool person indeed. neeyae thaevaiyaana alavukku pugazndhukko...coz my vote is for u - for the last few lines.. which shows your bond with him ...
Oh! now I understand the reason..no self pity...etc etc., Sorry its close to a year since I logged in into this site...due to various reasons. The first blog that I read was by someone who wrote a poem kinda sw.noth...and that was the only blog listed at that time..I din understand as some of them were like..my version..etc.etc...I could not understand that some hot topic was going around...
I feel like writing a lot abt u....again I only feel like appreciating you for your selfpitylessness(wonder if one such word exists in dictionary) . You are a very bold girl I must say...something that bonded you together is missing here...or u deliberately omitted it..there should be some strong base for love...which I am not able to find here. Hope its a collection of his manners, attitude and charector...etc etc...
The girl who is successful in her life after love marriage (don't argue abt failures in arr.marr, I agree)..according to me is the best decision maker in this world. Many parents are against love because of their uncertainity about the life of their dear and near ones.The main taboo is society and caste...If their children are happy they would also be happy though they may not agree shedding their ego!..
wonderful wonderful narration...you can definitely write a novel with some extra fittings to your dream part to make the read even more interesting.. 
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