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bhavani..

my first thought would have been "magane....veetukku vaada nee...gavanichikaren....", but since this cannot be spoken in public, i would have either faked a smile or given a horrified expression. (The second one is more likely)

Later, I would have first balsted him.....but as someone had already commented in one of the blogs...any guy would support his mother only even if he liked the wife's cooking. Because...pondatti prachanai-kku kattipudi vaidhiyam irukku....but amma-va pagachikitta...it will be a big ego problem....between MIL and DIL.

So after the blastings are over, it would be samadhanams and konjals....

Adhutha dhadava fried rice biriyani-ku ellam namma kitta dhan vandhaaganum.....appo pesikalaam-nu vittuduven....

As far as I am concerned, I wouldn't have felt bad. I would have seconded him saying I like her cooking as well, if only I liked it, else would have just managed a smile. Though that should've have been made public, once the damage is done, better to manage than publicise your embarassment .

TAME IS RIGHT. GIVING JUST A WIDE SMILE WILL KEEP EVERYONE GUESSING.AND FOR THE MATTER OF PERSONAL FEELINGS,"SILA NERANGALIL SILA MANIDARGAL" SOLLITU POYITTE IRUKKA VENDIYADHU THAN. SANDAI POTTAL NOTHING WILL HAPPEN.ONE OF YOUR GOOD DAY WILL GO WASTE .THAT'S ALL.

No Doubt my Hubby would say this..

Though i am good at cooking my MIL is the best in cooking traitional receipe.

Though its a puzhithanni or just a pickle he say yummy yummuy untill he finishes that and th e plate is cleaned:)

I too like her preparation so just a smile..vera vazhiella

If I were in that situation, would definitely not express my embarassment, but would second him saying, yes my mom-in-law is a good cook and im still learning from her,  so i would always love to cherish her food....put the ball in her court......

while watching the show, even my MIL & FIL felt sorry for that girl, my MIL said "yepadi soldran paaren, andha pona paaru paavam. At least avanoda amma-vaadhu, illa yen DIL naladhaan samaipaa, but inum kathuka neraya irukunu soliyurukalam".

coming to the question, had i been in that situation "I would have somehow tried to manage at that time, just by giving a paavam look with a shocking smile (as how our Indian cricketers would react when they loose the match....)"

But I cannot imagine how i would handle the post show telecast effect.... comments from the neighbours, friends, office collegues, relatives (yen anu, ippadi solitarey un husband, unaku kashtama ilaya?? nee kalyanathu munadiyeah nalla samaika kathukaliya!!!!!) - ayyo indha maadhiri comments yellam face panna mudiyavey mudiyaadhu. May be if i had been thru such situation, i would have meratified my husband & made him to request Gopinath / technical team to get that edited (indha VMSS yellam paakama, publica damage nadakaama paniyerupen).

@gaya3-sorry gaya3 for copying& pasting ur dialogue cos wat in my mind u wrote it tats why i did dis.u saved my time & energy.

my first thought would have been "magane....veetukku vaada nee...gavanichikaren....", but since this cannot be spoken in public, i would have either faked a smile or given a horrified expression.

second one- i won't do cooking if my MIL or my hubby asks me "why u r not doing cooking"? i simply raise dis dailogue to my hubby " nee thane sonna amma samayal tha super naan waste nne".

dialogue to my MIL "Ennaku tha samayakkeve theriyadhiela adhanala neegele samachikonga"

 i simply enjoy her cooking by eating food..............

I wouldnt show anythingg in public ..the reality is neither I am good cook nor my MIL is ..heheeh ... so it is why blood ? same blood story..

however, if it was done in public and if I were like that , I would do the following

 i will say that " I completely agree with my hubby because for every son his mother's food is good and every husband knows that his wife is matured to handle any critism.. so it is easier to support the mother than me " ...  eppudeeeeeeeeeeeeee ? 

I would say " plz munnadiyeh solli irundha naan andhapakkame pohama jally ya vera jolly pakka poyiruppene" and also would ask hime to learn frm his mother so that if she goes out of station , he could cook for me too or ask MIL to freeze food until she comes for her son.

If husband is bit rough, then would say let me cook my way for me if ur mom is not here , you can eat any food prepared elsewhere ,outside the house...

Even if it is true , would not talk to him for his indecent attitude. Valluvar has taught us " Inna seitharai oruthal avar naana nanayam seidhuvidal" ...so public la I will praise my husband for being honest and give a big smile ! will definitely appreciate MIL too...

but would def feel like   and ... appovum mudiyalaya koodave irundhu kala varavendiyathuthan wen time permits!

Let me share my view of Points:

I will give a smart smile & will say “Even I like my Mom cooking than my MIL’s cooking. And as well not only for me and my husband, all children will like their mother cooking only. Rest others cooking’s are next”.

I accept with habi points... For each and everybody their moms cooking is only best... Simply i will smile....(because we cant do anything in front of camera he he he he....)

In  no  way  i  can  hide  my   embarassment   there . I  would  have  taken  it  as  an insult . Not  that  my  husband  opted  fr  mother's  cooking , but  ,  the  way  of  laying  it  in  public...in  a  show.

i  dont  know  how  that  girl  was  for  the  rest of  the  show .  it   would  have taken  hours for  me  to  come  in   terms.

I would have felt very hurt, not just by this incident, but the fact that the husband could have told this to her before (she said if I'd put more salt one day, you could have told me etc). All this while she was under the false impression that her husband liked her food and also proud of that fact.

How I would have handled, in front of everybody I'll not reveal my feelings but will definitely talk to him about this at home.

Well, well, i think i would hv been furious.., inside, ofcourse, but becos it is a tv show, i wud definitely hv tried to fake a smile... But, But, But...I dont take to insults lightly, and usually give as good  as i get..

I agree with Habi's point of view. Definitely, every child s taste buds are programmed(Nisha's words) to like their mom's cooking, and it will take quite a few years of tasting wifey's cooking exclusively, for that to change..

I might not hv been able to put it across just as i hv written above, but i might hv said=

""Ok, en mamiyar alavukku enakku samaikka theriyadhu nnu othukaren. Ana, enna mathiri irundhappo ivanga eppadi samachaangannu ivanga purushan kitta kelunga... 30 yrs a samayal seiyyaravangalum, just 4-5 yrsa samayal panravangaloda eppadi compare panna mudiyum..? Irundhaalum, ok.. ok.."    

to hubby - "Idha neenga vettula sollama ingey vandhu solradhu kandippa thappu..."

After that, i would have avoided even looking at my hubby...

Believe me, idhukku melayum pesi iruppen.. becoz i m a decent cook, even my mom and mil appreciate my cooking. So luckily, intha situation enakku vandhirikadhu, and anyway, my MIL would never hv been so boldly complained about me, for any matter, in public. Never.

But still, i dont know how i would have reacted, but, knowing my nature, i might have reacted as above.

thappa..???

Knowing Satish, I know for a fact that he definitely likes his mother's food better and he has also told that in public before and I also know very well that my MIL is an amazing cook. Just like how I dont give up on my mom's cooking, he will not give up on his mum's. So it will be absolutely fine.

One thing for sure I will beat his mum in cooking is Non Veg dishes as she does not make non-veg and does not eat too. So out there, I have a very lil edge over her :)

The girl did feel bad as she was sitting next to me not because he said that her likes his mom's cooking more but because he has told her that he loves her cooking in the past and in the show, he said that he had to tell that to her as he did not want her to feel bad.

Otherwise she was quite okay.

My hubby loves my cooking best. so he would not have said that and infact he has said this to all our friends  and relatives and to his mom directly .Infact she felt happy that i am feeding him properly with good tasty food ..

In case as bhav has asked me to assume that he says he likes his mom's food in the show, then i would second him saying for everyone their mom's cooking is the best and same with me i like my mom's cooking the best nu solli irukpen.

All  of  us  love  our  mother's  cooking  and  so   must  be   fr  the  guy  too...what  turned  to be  unpleasant  was  the  way of  revealing  it   and  pulling  his  wife's  leg  further. 

Nice  to  know  that  the  girl  did  not  take  it  to  heart .

BTW  i  loved  bhavani's  palich point  "  i  dont  want  my son  to  be  this  way  to his wife " . Let  us  hope  for  a  bettter  generation .

And Bhavani,    what  would  have  been  your  reaction  ?

 This has really happened in my family!!!

I made sambar in Tamil style and my MIL made in typical Kerala style.  For my co-sis who was a Maharashtrian, both were new and was comparing it.. suddenly she turned to my husband and asked, "Bhayya… which sambar do you like? The one your mom prepares or that your wife prepares?" dhak dhak.. dhak dhak… All the eye lenses were zoomed and focussed at him, who is known for his classic answers… .  He said, "neither… both are horrible… I like Triplicane Ratna café sambar.."  All thought he was trying to escape from that situation until he took all of us to Ratna café.. a not-so-big hotel in the busiest streets of Triplicane, where my husband stayed with his friends before marriage.

Anyway.. coming back to our discussion… we all were empathizing the DIL all this time… and even blamed the MIL and the Son.  Now lets put ourselves in each of their shoes (I am not taking the DIL's role as I already explained her helplessness in my blog and all of you have written it here:

1.  Mother in law:  Do you think she had any idea that this is finally going to shape up like this?  Look at her… the only arena where she is an expert must be cooking.... always thinking about cooking food and anything else within the boundaries of her home...she looks a typical mother of that type!  When the mike was given to her and was asked to speak about the difference, that poor thing said the ONLY superior thing she knew about being a conservative mom… She did not ask to call her son.. it was the DIL who challenged so… to ask her husband… and at the end when Gopi asked how she felt, obviously a mother would feel happy to know that her son acknowledged her love.  More than cooking or food.. it was the possessiveness of the ladies over him shown in this episode.. the DIL challenged to ask him thinking that he would be with her just because he loved her…. and the mother agreed for the same reason.

2.  Poor thing he was put in such an embarrassing situation too.... he tried to escape from such a situation but Gopi did not leave him... he even tried to escape saying that his dinaphalan is bad..!! sollanume nnu solren nnu thane sonnar... and he must be true too.. his mom is obviously more experienced... athum damage illama iva ippo than samayal katthukka arambichirukka.. athinale amma samayal pudikkumnnu thane pavam sonnar?...

And she blamed that he never said if the salt or karam was kammi or jasthi then and there.. but went to office and then informed her... isnt that a great gesture?... instead of insulting her in front of her MIL, he kept quite, sahichufied the karam and uppu... went to office and called her to inform her personally so that she would take care of it... and he is a person who appreciates... (very rare in male species!!!).. for her slightly better ones, he has complimented that they are good, though he knew it is not equal to the time tested recipes of his mom...   she shouldnt have taken it out there!

And look at him when both the ladies were fighting inside, poor thing was taking care of the kid outside…. How many of the husbands would do that?

3.  Gopinath.  Yes agreed.. Gopinath should've avoided this whole stunt… but remember, he was not running a group counseling session for two generations or a social service to improve the rapport between them…. He is an anchor of a debate show in a channel and his duty is to make it as spicy as it can be so that it stays on top in the TRP ratings.  Look at the whole show.. he tried his best to include all spice of life there… some comedy, sentiments, romance, fight (intha movie reviewsle directors promise pannuvangale athu mathiri.. intha padathile neenga ethir parkirathu ellame irukku… sandai, romance, sentiments, kamedy!! Athu mathiri).  When he asked that lady to show that vekkam and say ennanga once more, he moved to this extreme side so that he wouldn’t block any of the camera view… so that they get it in all the angles… he knew that this and things like the DIL episode is going to run on and on in all the promos in the channel to make more people view … and then talk about it even after the show (cmoms-leye 4 thread running on the show!!).  He did the job that he is being paid to….

4.  Production team of the show.  I just remembered how we were asked by the production team in Jackpot to "show" all emotions in a louder way … but at the end, as we all were not in a mood to show the real emotion we had, we couldn’t keep the promise to them!!!! (I still wonder how Sayee could smile and answer Khushboo there.. I had a big iron ball stuck down my throat!!  If my son dint console me as I said in that blog.. or Sayee dint scold me (Paduthriyedi…. Decenta veliye vanthomnnu santhoshappadu!), I would have given the best chance for that production team to run an oppari promo!!!

Remember frenz, this is what these programs are for…. Once the lights off after the shoot.. nee yaro nan yaro for them.  The emotions of the participants, the controversial debate and the after discussions it can make… are important for them.  Because there are people to watch that rather  the real FACTS of generation gap! Who cares!

But this time, they gained at the price of the family's happiness! The mother, son and the daughter in law came in their best attitudes in all cheers to be a part of a leading television show without any clue what is going to be the discussion about and went back home with bleeding wounds to last for a lifetime!!!

amutha.. if the bhavani you mentioned is me... i'd have hidden my emotions on the tv and wd've defenitely fought with my husband (why wait till i reach home, i'd have started off as soon as we are in the car - to drive back home).

Nisha, there is a place and time to tell the truth (that his mom's cooking is better than his wife's). Revealing a truth in front of the public is totally senseless. I wd never support that husband on the tv. So what if gopi compells him for the truth. He shd've said some mazhupal answers like both are good or mom cooks traditional food, wife cooks different cuisines etc. Did gopi put a gun to his head to tell the truth? So what if a gun is put on his head (in that situation, the wife herself wd admit that he likes his mom's food !). I understand the mil's part - she is a poor lady and challenged like every mother would have done it in that situation. He should have atleast appreciated the fact that his wife got his mother to the show instead of her mother and answered appropriately !

Bhavani ,  yes !  i  was  curious  to  know  yr reaction   and  well  done . That   is  very  true.

Thanks.

 Bhavani... we could say all this because we have enuf time to think for answers... Dhideernnu enna nadakkuthunne theriyama iruntha manushane rolling camera munnadi nippatti question kekkrathu worse than pointing gun my dear...  neenga solra mathiri oru mazhuppal answer create panra mathiri mind irukkuma appo? mind ore white washing mudinja sevuru mathiri thane irukkum...  

and from the show.. he is not a man who blames her for her poor culinary skills... be it public or private... otherwise she wouldnt've dared to challenge Gopi to ask her husband..!

I still remember those first moments of Jackpot show.. how I ularified thathu puthu nnu.. ingle kilometer kanakkukku comments podra naan ... ange ularikottiyathum (with my eyes popping out/!!).. appo enakku heartle etho rock band number odittirunthathum... ellam nalla nhapakam irukkuthu!!!  I completely empathize him!

nisha, let me ask u this question - if kushboo asked you "who is best - your husband or your father" in the jackpot show, what would you have replied? wdn't you think what you are answering?

don't tell me a "Father of a child" cannot think in front of a camera. I accepted your say about the mil right - she is naive and she did what she is expected of. Even my mil or my mother will do only that. I wdnt do such a challenge at my dil in future. There is defenitely a maturity level and the knowledge level difference between older generation and our generation.

you ularified ok... did u ularify what you are not supposed to say? u were lost with the words in front of the camera and not lost on thoughts my dear !

he he he.. looks like .. now I have to think from bhavani's shoes now!!!

Enakku eppdi yosichalum avan gathi at the neeya nana set and after the shoot... adhogathiya than theriyuthu!   pavam!

appadi vaanga vazhiku !

Hi .. i wud ve not reacted at all ...

i wud definitely not expected my hubs to vote for me, my daughter is jus 2 years old n she likes my cooking (good or bad) .

actually i wud say poor man (mom/wife).. either way he is gonno embarass some one ...

(gopi nath shud nt ve dragged th topic)

th thing i cud not stop laughing is ("sorakkai kebab")

yes girls, All for the TRP ratings..................

Even if that man would have said something extra like 'my wife is still learning, in some years she'll be good....' it could still be edited

And even when the modern moms where giving great recipes, why do you think Gopinath would bring the 'thanni' matter. Because its the conservative moms who watch TV serials. I've got nothing against conservative moms, since my household is full of them and since I'll be also termed the same in a couple of years :(

I think there r certain things which shouldnt be talked about in front of a big audience.. This is certainly one of those topics.  the husband was left in a very embarrasing situation where he had to take one side.  Its obvious that everyone likes their moms cooking even if its bad cos because they are used to it right from the start.  My husband would have answered the same if he had been questioned.. And as for me i would have put up a long face till tthe show ended

 And gopinath shouldnt have put the couple in an embarrasing situation like this

Regarding sorakkai kabab (or lauki kebab/lauki kofta)... let me put it across that its a very common dish in UP...  they make kebabs/koftas in a tomato-based a gravy to go with chapatis and pooris... so it is a genuine dish and not a "cooked up" one...

Guys....check this link and you will find the last two mins of the same couple in a past neeya naana episode :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fMjUDhzAHYY&feature=related

namma dan breaking our heads  for mil-dil issue

... i think for them (mil-dil issue couple) used to this ... i feel they enjoy this...

Yes I guess so

after watching the video of them (mil-dil issue couple)  i think for them (mil-dil issue couple) they are used to this ... i feel they enjoy this...

 

iyyo  iyyo namma timela waste ta pochey

vaidehi... where did u get this link from? neeya naana la varathukune oru group iruko?!

Hey Vai, i saw this link only now..! How did u find this..?

Bhavani, a colleague's daughter had some time back, participated in a singing competition on one of the channels. Though she didnt get thru past the 1st 2 or 3 rounds, the channel had taken her number, and was inviting her for any event, for which they didnt have enough participants...whether she was interested or not..!

I guess this is how we get to see same ppl on different shows...

I got this link from Techsatish link where one of them had given this link as part of his comments.

what abt the second part of NEEYA NAANA? no discussions abt that.? I did not watch it for i was watching sharukh khan's Rab NE Bana DE jodi at that time...

A re-telecast of Neeya Naana can be viewed on Friday at 2p.m