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An Ode to Friendship !!

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August 17, 2010 16:38
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karma: 1178

"Friendship is like a violin; the music may stop now and then, but the strings will last forever."

Friendship day…friendship week…friendship month !!! I cud see so much talk abt friends and friendship. I have made a lot of friends over the years..But only a bunch of “best friends”.

These are friends who have been thru my ups and downs…hues n cries…glee n gloom..Always lending an arm when Im over a barrel!!

These are friends who appreciate and chide…friends who have shown me what life is all about…friends who have made me distinguish between good and bad…friends who made me realize that there cud be people in the disguise of friendship who are capable of throwing poison soaked arrows at u…sitting next to u !!! Friends definitely do not act as a Pandora’s box !! Secrets shared- Friends keep the bottles up and don blow the lid off !!

My first friendship bloomed when I was 3 yrs!! Mala was my first ever known friend…The little friendship thickened in to best of friends over the years…I don know how many can boast of such relationships which last for more than 25 yrs without a legal tie !! But the travel was not jus a bed of roses..We both are cock fighters..and have had our bits of misunderstandings…But years have made us only realize that there is something more and above all the trivial things.People tease us “Jodi kiligal”…We were always together..roaming in the streets…happily chatting…our playtime..temple visits…dance classes..balvihar classes...

When she found her life partner,I felt hurt !! I thot my friend was moving away from me…and stopped talkg to her !! How childish !! I cried crazily when she left to Coimbatore to do her BE…

There has always been a kinda telepathy…We may not be talkg for weeks..suddenly I wud be thinking of her..and here comes the call !! Mala is a very strong willed person..grt motivator !!

School days have been the most memorable..Lots of activities..competitions..fun…less time in class…Lakshmi joined our group in 11 th Std.Initially I din ve a grt impression…Slowly her easy going way..taking everthg easily..looking at the funnier side of things..drew me towards her.The friendship continued in college as well…Learnt how to enjoy life from her…Our night studies..triples in bike with another friend Kanchana,on and on chatting sessions,gossips,movies..secret corn puffs while the class was in session..tiffs...are unforgettable !!We may not be talking every other day..may not be for mths together..But when we get connected,its from where we left !!

Lakshmi is settled in Mumbai now, the way she has blended herself in the new environment is amazing!! Its so much fun to be around with her...

Kanchana was a hostelite…our visits to her native place…the fun filled trips..her mom’s yummy vadai… movie time in Kadalur are still chiseled in my memory…She is such a patient person..I really had to learn frm her..A good cook..somebdy who has an eye for detail and appreciates even the smallest of things..Probably I picked it up frm her!! She always spreads warmth..

Happily in US with 2 kids…Our conversations last for atleast an hr on ISDs !!

Rekha studied in the same school in a different class but we became more closer in college when we were together…Our stories wud begin the time we start to college…at college..after college…walking time…atha thavira vetti pechu time !!We wud talk abt everythg under the sun…but still leave with a sense of discontentment ..and to be continued the next day…We still stay closeby,she stays in the adjacent street..our daughters have made good friends with each other in the recent summer camp ( Our Abirami knows better abt the lotties of these two !!!)

Rekha wrks as a Manager with ICICI bank with 2 lovely daughters.

Martina- my colleague !!! I wud always tease her as the Hanuman of our Ramayana !! The one who always helped me, when I made secret outings with Vj during our courtship!! I think of her and she wud be at my doorstep…that’s our power of friendship…Shreya and Marty make the best of friends now…She came and stayed with me in Bglre for a week when I was pregnant..she was there when I delivered..she was jus next to me,constantly boosting my morale when my husband was undergoing spine surgery !! I know she jus cudnt leave me…She knows when I may need her..and she has always been there !!

Martina is an embodiment of strength..she herself has swam against all odds..and still believes everythg is possible !!

And here comes my “All in All”..Not jus a friend…philosopher..guide..sister..teacher..lender ( Anythg reqd, its always available in A-4 !! thts her flat no.) – AMBIKA …We became closer after I came to Chennai for my delivery..But the bond has been growing in different directions and ofcourse strong!! Anythg tht upsets me, I know I can immdly share with smebdy and find a sense of relief and solace.For her, Shreya is her daughter !! When I faced a lot of turmoil in the last year,she has been my pillar of support…constantly encouraging..patting…making me move fwd !! I wonder what I wud do without her…I can jus trust her for anythg !!

What schools haven’t taught me..what parents haven’t taught me..what teachers haven’t taught me….friendship has definitely taught me !! I can jus be myself with them..no mask..no acting..no different u…when u say somethg, they know it…when u don say somethg..they still know !!

The bunch - have been my strength…thru thick n thin..thru hot n cold…they all ve proved time n again that a “Friend in need is a friend indeed”. They have helped me groom myself..taught life’s lessons…I ve grown with them in this lovely sail of life !!

These are friends who don’t change with the tides of time..who believe who you are..and accept as you are- MY TREASURES !!

" A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away."
- Arabian Proverb

36 comments so far. What are your thoughts?

happymom

karma: 214

wow... nejamave an ode to friendship dhan.... u have so many lovely friends and they are all lucky to have u :) and needless to say, very well written shobs :)

August 17, 2010

Shobana

karma: 1178

Tks Ramya..it was jus a realisation...actually tks to those who made me realise the worth of these lovely friends !!!

August 17, 2010

Velvizhi

karma: 1768

Ofcourse shobs...True and best friends are real treasures one could have...and its nice to know that u treasured many..

May ur friendship with these gals bloom for ever....

August 17, 2010

Shobana

karma: 1178

Tks Vels...happy that Im still sticking on to them....

August 17, 2010

AnithaMa..

karma: 168

Nicely written, Shobs... Good to read such a blog...May your friendship last forever.. and thanks for sharing it with us...

August 17, 2010

akils

karma: 167

u r so Lucky to hav these kinds of friends..

Long live friendship..

August 17, 2010

ANU4NIVEDH

karma: 798

WOW..! Shobs, that was so nice to read..! U r blessed to have made such wonderful frnds..! True friends are life's most precious gems..!

August 17, 2010

Amirtha S

karma: 348

As usual nice b-log by u shobs...

Blessed to get such lovely friends....Friends are to be treasured...

August 17, 2010

samyu

karma: 67

Hey Great shobs !! let the bond grow !! my wishes for you......you have poured down your heart

August 17, 2010

thamil

karma: 351

gud one to read..nice

August 17, 2010

Sugi

karma: 507

nicely written.. great friends..

August 17, 2010

Aks

karma: 350

Well written.. Truly an ode to friendship..

August 17, 2010

Shobana

karma: 1178

Tk u Anita,Akila and Anu...

Subha- u got me right...

Tks Thamil,Sugi and Akila...

According to me friendship is all about trust..no back biting..no back stabbing..no pride..no competition..mutual understanding...lots of giv and take...

Happy that I found a few gems !!

August 17, 2010

PriyaMah..

karma: 323

good one shobs.!!!

August 17, 2010

umagowtham

karma: 7

Hi shobs,

Yours is same like mine. I do make friends very easily and strongly. My closest friend(who is not just friend, she is my philisopher, sister, guide and mender and above all my (best)n friend) who is well settled in US with 2 boychild. She is everything for me. It was a wonderful moment that my friendship started with cock fighting (worser than that, i don't get an apt word to describe about the same) but slowly mutual understanding builds between us both and thickest of the thickest friends. her name is Anjali. one thing which is worrying me a lot that the distance .She is settled in US after marriage but I am in chennai, India. Once in 2 years, she will come to Chennai, that days again will be my memorable days.

other than anjali, I have many other good friends in contact for the past many years, namely ramya,yevonne,pushpa,ranjini,janani,gomathi,sridevi,gowri,bama,usha,aishwariya,radhika, and so on.

Thanks shobs, you have given me a chance to tell abt my friendship.

August 18, 2010

Amala

karma: 1655

Wow Shobs u got such a good frends and I think u r really blessed!!!!!

August 18, 2010

twins

karma: 480

wow nice to see ur frndship..may ur frndship bloom for ever.Friends are really the treasure.

Good friends are like stars, you dont always see them ,but you know they rea always there.

August 18, 2010

Shobana

karma: 1178

Tks Priya..

Uma- its really nice to know abt ur friendship...hold it on tightly...

Tks Amala n Yoga...

August 18, 2010

vinay amma

karma: 353

Hey Shobs,

Jus now got the time to read it.I know i'll take more to take in the words u've given.

I can jus say u r blessed and ur frends too.

And ur profile pic and this blog matches,so try posting pics of ur other friends mentioned here too.

August 18, 2010

Shobana

karma: 1178

Tks Radhika...sure will do...

August 18, 2010

Bhuvanes..

karma: 412

Very well written about your friends, you are lucky to get such friends, offcourse they too.

August 18, 2010

Shobana

karma: 1178

Tks Bhuvana...

August 18, 2010

aish2009

karma: 64

hey shobana,

very well written...enjoyed reading it!!

as you say, friends are indeed treasures!! i do have a handful of them who have been with me thru trying times :)

friends are the next best thing to parents and family!!

cheers

aish

August 19, 2010

Shobana

karma: 1178

Tks aish....what u say is very true...

August 19, 2010

MOMRJ6

karma: 337

And dear Shobi!

Many friends do really value you so much, but are still searching for the best words to describe u! Pls don't leave them off thinking they are not there! The real reason may be that even the best phrases to describe a friend may not be fit enough to describe a real unconditional love for a friend like u! So, pls do include the names of all these Co-cmoms who have written their comments to this blog of yours!

(And eventually u have to include me too dear- HOWZATT!)