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Sibling Rivalry

Even though children are fond of playing with other children, it's common for brothers and sisters to fight with one another.  The sibling rivalry starts before the second child is born, (i.e) the first baby can be depressed due to insufficient care even after their mother become pregnant and that continues when the kids grow.

How to tackle Sibling Rivalry

Sometimes it will be frustrating and upsetting the parents who are watching some extreme fights. Though it is a strenuous activity parents have to take some steps to stop or to minimize the sibling rivalry in your children.

Naturally sibling rivalry is common it is not only with human’s but too with animals for (e.g) The first baby eaglet that is born kills all his sibling eaglets by pushing them out from the nest as they come out of their eggs to get all the privileges like food & care from the mother eagle. 

There are many different things that can cause the siblings to fight due to the competition among them.

The sibling rivalry starts from the day when he realizes that his/her mother is getting away from them when the mother becomes pregnant and ready to take care of her second baby. When the first child is born, ALL of the parents' available time and attention is only for that one child. This time the first child feels that they are special to the entire family. All the family members and their mother care & concentrate them more. It enjoys the ultimate privilege from the entire family.

But suddenly when the second child is born the time of mother to the first child slashes to a greater level. Generally the mother have very less time to spend with her first baby which depresses the child who look for the attention of their mother all times.  Now the situation becomes even worse when they mature it has been fixed in their mind that only because of the second baby their father & mother hardly have time & attention to play and to spend with them.

This develops in each and every stages from usage of toys to dress usually young children are protective of their toys and belongings and never like to share it with anyone else. So when the first child see that the young one playing or using his toys or things he naturally gets angry and jealousy with him.

How to avoid sibling rivalry

Don’t put your child in a guilty feeling in front of their sibling.

Since learning begins at home and children especially from their parents.  So don’t argue in front of your children. Before fighting remember that the child is watching you and in turn can follow the same with their siblings

Don’t give more responsibility for the older one because it is the one who born first. Keep in your mind that always a kid is a kid.

Father always like female child so generally the male kid hates his sister because she is the person who gets all the privileges from his father.

Try to make your children play together and always appreciate them together.

Sit and talk with them how they both are important to you and how you love them both and how they are related to each other, this will cycologically create a good bonding between them.

Last but not least Never make comparisons.