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Discipline makes a child more responsible n builds his/her self esteem.The child feels loved,cherished n thus more secure.

Disciplining is directly propotional to d quality of time spent with d child n not d quantity.

Positive discipling makes d child feel responsible for his/her actions.

In todays fast paced materilistic life, with both parents working to provide their family all possible comforts/luxuries it is d child who suffers d most.

Parents often do not hv d time to sit n interact with d child n even if d parents sit with d child

they lend him/her only half a ear.Most of d time when child is talking their attention is elsewhere n either they ask d child to keep quite or do not answer.

This kind of behaviour/response from d parents prompts d child to indulge in -ve behaviour which is child's way to attract d parent's attention.

If u want d child to grow into a mature n responsible person,now is d time to do d ground work.

-make d child feel special by involving him in decision making which is appropriate to their age.

-do not nag all d time,talk to d child as u would to a friend.If d child has made his room messy ask him to clean it n put away things in their respective places n give him time to do so. If d child has still not done d needful after say 1/2 hr. or so ask him again but do not start cleaning up urself as it sends a wrong message to d child that if he does'nt do it d parent will n also it makes them feel unimportant.

-give d child d power, make them feel important by asking for advice n include them in desion making. Ex. u give them 2/3 choices n let them decide what they want for dinner or if u r going for a party let d child decide what he would like to wear out of 3 dresses which u hv laid out for him.

-let d child learn by experience. do not live their life for them by making all d decisions urself.Let them learn from their mistakes early on in life so that they learn to b indepent 'cause u r not going to b there forever.

-if d child misbehaves,tell him/her u love them but their behaviour is incorrect.never say u r a bad boy/girl. say what u hv done is bad.

-unconditional love of a parent builds up a childs self esteem.

So do discipline ur child as it is very important for their healthy growth but do so lovingly.

Happy Parenting