yes of course........... its a big change .........for girls marriage for boys its job................... thatz hw the life is..................

but probably some how we have to find time to see that we get some personal time.............

Of course, those days are days, because of some responsibilties we feel so ....................... its quite natural that

When we r kid, we like to grow up.........when we r adult we like to be kid

To be frank i enjoyed that life before marriage and enjoying life after marriage too.Afterall ,,problems,laughter, joy, sorrow ,happiness, sadness were there before and now too.

If the life is to be the same then it wud be boring...

Yes life does change afetr marriage. We do get burdened with additional responsibilities and duties. But adhellam sugamana sumaigal aagardhu. V do complain that v dont get time for ourselves. Just imagine one day in a month v get for ourself, no household chores, no looking after kids, v can freak out as r wish. no phone calls to enquire on where v r or wat v r doing. Now honestly can somebody say even if vr given a free day, do v stop thinking on wat's happening at home? how did r hubby dear manage to do everything? How r the kids doing? did they eat, did they sleep?

So once married and v become a mother, those responsibilites r ingrown. Nobody forces them on us. It just comes naturally for us.

Agreed life b4 marriage is great. But life after marrige is a challenge and teaches us so many things. Its a learning curve althro'

 100% true Gayathri.....  though i read this yesterday... was busy with my kid that i couldn't type a comment here... but I was relating each of your line with my life...... so many things came flashing in my mind... that i am nominating this as the best blog today.. and here goes my vote!

Ramya.. sugamana sumaikal nnu namakku name convince pannikkrom thane...do we have a "RIGHT" to fall sick or feel tired after marriage?.... even if we take rest for sometime, its again we who should get into action and prepare the dinner, washing cleaning... so most of the time we stop thinking about our tiredness and work like a robot... rite?  sob sob!

 More than home.. I was thinking about those hostel days.. (veettile nee solra mathiri kidayathu.. un amma mathiri Hamam amma ille enakku... she would make me do things...)... come after work... straight to the canteen... have your coffee.. and snack.. then back to room... I was a medical representative then .. so my room had many boxes (medicine samples) so ppl can sit on them... and hence my room was the party room... all come fresh up and straight to my room... singing, dancing, gossipping, story telling, discussions, patti manrams, chinna chinna sandais... oru walkman vachu naalu per pattu kekkrathu, candle omlettes, ottifying our loosu matron, love stories, no-love stories, phone calls, pizza, oru masala dosa pichified between 6 to 10 ppl, craft making, hair styling classes, jokes, those surprise birthday parties, new year eve, Christmas, Onam, oral admit aana...  pathu peru bystanders, Chrismom, anthakshari, dumb charade, and other games..... what not....

Sigh... !!!!!

 Well said about our current life Gayathri....  I'm very eager to see my mom  , but i cant  since im unable leave my hubby   in abroad alone

I remember pickle on bread in my hostel days / single pastry b'day in the middle of the night......amma samaiyal .... sleeping  unconditionally !! wow u made me nostalgic yaar ...wish the time machine rewinds and gives us a chance to relive those moments....I miss all my friends .... my office gym  ...i really toned down in two years but after my engagement even forgot the gym.....

hmmm.... hope life gives us a break atleast in our eighties !! if at all our life span gives us that scope.....

hmm...thnxs 4 the comments gals..made me feel less guilty..

hope i get break atleast for the cmoms meet up this month

eager to c u all gals....

I completely agree with Ramya. Life should be a learning experience.  If you had shared the burden of your mom you would have definitely not felt the bite of married life.

We should shed self pity and try to make the life a happier one as life is too short to be worried.

The respect for my mother and mother-in-law has increased now ,as my mother has always brought me up as a responsible person and did not pamper. What I have always felt is the caringness she gave for people around her. This is true with my MIL too with respect to her daughter. Both of them were great mothers for me and my SIL. We care for one another. It is mutual and this caringness that I feel I am extending to my son and husband. So life has not changed except that we don't visit them often. Me and my SIL never feel that we have lost our spinster days as we feel life has to go on and every day should be a happy day making our parents proud.

Men do have their chavenestic attitude, as responsible parents now its our turn to change the table. Bring up your boy child in a nicer way and a responsible person.

This is my view. I am awaiting to read more views on this subject...

Probably life in a joint family is more taxing. As far as my thoughts go, it is not all that different except for the cooking and other household chores. Infact, for me going to my mom's place is boring. Though my mom lives here in Chennai, I don't even visit her once in a month. My brother and my mom keep calling me and after repeated calls, I visit them for a night's stay with my hubby and come back the evening next. Sometimes I get so lazy that I don't fold the washed clothes even for 2 days. My daughter and my hubby don't really bother. So I love my home more than my mom's.

heartfelt post gayathri & here is my vote for it.....

danx nirmala

life is aplay and we will have to play our part at the right time in the right way  and thats what all r doing.  else the whole play will be a flop.

all my wishes to you to play ur part well.

hemaji