hi chandra: pls add me to your friends list. We can share more things there. bye Kutty

Hi Yogamom, Its just a trait exhibited by your daughter. The feeling of being secure when mom is around. Oh my! I just am reminded about my home town and my mom. i think my mom, unlike you, wud never have had the chance to vent her feeling. You know what, as a kid, i have always been DISObedient, but today when I have my daughter and ask her to do work upon my idea, I feel I too should have done it for my mom. Anyways, YogaMom, you have nothing to worry about. I will tell you a small exercise which you can do and see some immediate results. Like, when your daughter has college holidays, send her with a friend to your relatives house or another friends house (with whom you can break this message to) and ask them to take care of her, giving her daily some daily responsibilities atleast for a the next 3 days say or so. Then guage her progress, how she adapts, how she is able to make decisions, how she can cook probably a dinner or lunch for all them and so on. Ask her friend to help her and also take care of her. Call your daughter the next day when she reaches there and one more day. After that, dont call your daughter up for atleast 2 days. I know its hard. But do call on your relative or friend to get an update of her progress. She will come out of the shell. I can bet on it. YogaMom for certain people (like ME) we will do it only when there is a NEED. Your daughter can be groomed. Lets give it a try and see. Ok! Now wipe your tears and look at the brighter sides. (hey not there hahahahahahaha) Kutty

oh yogs don't u worry...let her be..shez gonna do just fine when the need arises...let the gal have her days of fun...once she has to look after her fmly she can never have one of the days she is enjoying with u....let her be yogs

 I think think you enable the behavior by doing things for her.

Why don't you just step back and and not do her work- firmly ofcourse.

Withdrawing your labour is not withdrawing love!

 hi,. at this stage, many girls are like this only.. and not only ur girl.. but u should just try to teach her things slowly .. and am sure ur daughter will be obeyin .. ur words.. and she wont be too dependent on u... an just believe in ur daughter..

thank u.

 Until my 21 years i didnt know to do even a small work. Later joined in hostel for higher studies and did all works by myself. Now itself if my amma or akka is with me i dont do any work. Am a mom of 4 months old. Am proud to say am handling all of my house hold activities, some official works and also handling my naughty baby. Situations can change the behavior. After marriage girls cant able to get time to sit. So let her to take rest and enjoy in mother's house.