Cool it dear Whitney. Keep talking to her. At one point, she will yeild. Whats the kind of support system which you son has now? I dint understand this much. "His wife has absolutely NOTHING to do with his side of the family" could you please elaborate, so that I can give some food to my brain and see if I can help. Use up occasions to send her some gifts that she will like. Send her greeting cards, personally done by you. Dont buy them from the store. Show that you care so much and also you have taken time and pains to do the greeting card. Gather your old pics from your photo albums. Take a color photocopy of those, and stick some appropriate ones in that greeting card you send to her. Put some pictures of your son in a collage. on the (back)last side of the greeting card, put your picture that you are anxiously waiting for a reply. Your picture shud be the smallest one, compared to the other pictures that you have sent her. You could also put up a picture of your son, with a picture of hers (if you have one) and ask her to paste her kids picture in that appropriate column and send the card back to you. This is just an exercise to see if she will respond. Im sure she will. After all she is now a Mother too! Kutty