I can understand your situation. Since your in-laws are overall not that bad or manipulative, your husband finds it unreasonable to separate from them. It is also the reason that your parents are asking you to maintain the relationship. Maybe a better solution would be for your husband to speak to them in private. Make sure you are not present. And he can explain to them that it would be easy for him, too, to leave them and their care, and go abroad and make a nice life for himself and his wife and child. But, he chooses to be here because he loves his parents and wants to be responsible for their care. And that is the reason he cannot build a bungalow... or have a big bank balance. That they should stop looking up to his brother, since he took the easy way out. If he can explain that and if the situation improves, then it is a win-win for you all. The only other thing you can do then, is to manage your child for a year or so, and once he starts going to school, resume going to your office. DON'T STAY AT HOME.

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Try taking up some hubby ( like stiching, embroidary, reading.. ect) classes and engage yourself so that you don't interact with your in-laws much. take up tution classes to your neighbour's children if possible and have a feeling of accomplishing something...

as you cannot avoid your child, you cannot shake of your in-laws in the situation like yours. Don't give tension to your husband who have to work for you and your children future.It is his duty of him to take care of his parents.

Think of a situation when you happen to leave your in-laws behind, and some untowards incident happens to them. Your children also will not forgive you even if you were right in your action.Have patience for your children sake, be a support to your husband.

take up,yoga and meditation and keep your mind free to keep your husband and child happy always which is our ultimate goal of life.

I agree with the advice given by littlesteps. Since you are working from home, the situation sometimes gets out of control. It is better to ignore the comments and unnecessary advice given by anyone. It may be difficult, but not impossible to do so. You are sure trying your best, and don't let anyone judge about it. The pressure of work, taking care of the child and the family...all this DURING the working hours sure makes anyone go mad. Understand the root of the problem and organize yourself.

I have myself faced the same kind of problem. Understand that your MIL may be feeling left out if you are too much attached to the computer. Do not depend or expect her to do something or take care of your child's emergency situation (like toilet etc) when you are working. This will only make her feel "used" and may turn bitter. Sort out this in a subtle and delicate manner and you all will be a happy family again.

Though this may sound very conservative, understand it is time the elders relax. They may give advice and interfere in everyway possible, but it might also be due to the reason that they are used to doing things themselves, but are not able to do now and satisfy themselves on verbal descriptions and comments. These are best to be ignored if you do not want to follow them.

As far as separation is concerned, you will be separated(emotionally) from your hubby more than the physical separation from your in-laws.

DO YOUR THING, GIRL!!!!