GD,

As said in my earlier comment to you, kids are darlings.

What you resist will persist! (One of the sayings of a "Peace Preacher" Sri Ravisankarji)

My son is in class 1. He is absolutely playful, very naughty. The only thing he does best, is get good marks in school and finishes homework almost immediately after he arrives to home. But after that, the house will just spin.

His father, has resorted to all basic practises, he will stand still like that. Sometimes, he will break down and start to cry.  I miss my son, who is in school right now and Im too a working mom like you.

Try changing his peer group of friends. Sit down and talk to him about good things in life, and how important it is for him to get set into the track you are aspiring.

Sometimes kids take some time to understand things better.  Try also to talk to his teacher at school. Please dont punish your boy infront of others except ur hubby.

Not even in front of his siblings. They will get into a shell and think that you are partial.

We can exchange more of these posts/comments, and Im sure you will be able to bring change in your son.

Good Luck

Thanks Gaima. We dont really punish him hard but yes, we do shout at him for his irresponsibility in front of all at home. I know it is embarrasing. But how do we handle ourselves better when time and again children do what they are asked not to?

I must thank you for taking time to read through my question and come up with wise replies. Thanks much!

Madam, if all what you feel and observe happens to be true to a greater extent then please let me, at the very outset, rest assure you that your child is not what you temperamentally incline to brand or libel him with these sort of obnoxious words like 'sluggish, irresponsible' or such terms in kind.

When the child possesses an above average IQ it, in most cases, is bound to have an higher percentage of EQ as well and that, in my opinion, could be the causatory factor behind his belated smiling or laughing after being advised or scolded.This may seem to be a bit indifferent but on the contrary it is truly an encouraging sign that exhibits its capability to comprehend and analyze things very patiently. If you like it you may call this as cool, cooler or coolest. I think that you are unduly worrying about about a child that is otherwise going to be an asset to you and to your blessed family.

Creating a conducive atmosphere in every field of its activities with an earnest intention to motivate the child could lead him to feel that you have at last understood him. Once you accomplish this you shall be pleased to find a phenomenal change in his behavioural pattern. Please, for Lord sake, never ever feel tempted to spank or scold your precious child lest it would destroy the very spiritual fabric of the child.

Madam, I would rather suggest you to an Hindi movie ' Dare Zameen par" by Amir Khan that has a real message for all of us who inadvertently make some mistakes due to the anxiety to see our children excel in the manner in which we feel right. I'm sure that things take the right turn and shape and your beloved son proves to be a chile bar excellent.

dear Gd,

here I'm extremely, extremely sorry for inadvertently clicking the report as abusive. It was out of sheer mistake and you please do pardon me for this and apologize both to you and the administrator through this reply

Hi Mystica,

I am new to this site and hence did not even realize that you clicked the "report abuse" flag. :-) Good for you!!!

I really liked your advice and feel so proud and better about my son after reading your interpretation of his behaviour. Many times in life, however wise we are to ourselves, we just dont seem to find a solution to our own problems. This post of mine was a result of one such!

Regards,

GD

Oh dear! my happiness knew no bounds when I read that you did really feel proud of your loving child after the interaction. This itself reveals your wisdom and prudence  to realize that one needs to just cool her mind and soul when you deal with such extremely delicate and emotional issues! To be very frank with you, it was you who got incubated out of the thick shell of temperamental emotions. (No offence! Switch on the lighter veins please!)

Now that you sound hale and joyful you will have all the power on earth to feel and understand that there is absolutely no room to doubt his acumen in any field of his activity. Please permit me, at the fag end, to emphatically state that I neither ventured to advise you nor even had the slightest intention to dare that. Please incline to believe that it is just the interaction between two souls. Do not you think that it is the duty of a parent to come to the aid of another parent when he or she is felt to be thrown into a sea of self imposed confusion and agitation for sweet nothing. Many a great men and women under the sun happen to possess exactly the very same behavior, mannerism and aptitude of your child in their child and boyhood.

I wish I heard from you about your brilliant scion, the son of the mother and his cheerful activities sooner than later. May God bless you!

Regards,

Mystica

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