I would suggest arrange some tuition for your elder one. or arrange some one to take care of kids like your parents/relatives ... If you want to take care everything then its a tuff job and def you get angry end of the day and end up beating kids. But i strongly say "NO" to beating kids :-) because young kids with soft skin .. and moreover they dont know why you are beating and hence do the same thing. Hubby should take some work of yours in the weekend and also should teach the elder one on sundays atleast if he is so busy with work.. Teach your elder one in the morning time before every one wake up. So that he can go to bed early in night. Some one has to compromise to get the job done in a cool manner. 

This will be solved in a year period when your other kids go school. Till then hire someone to take care of the kids. Or hire some maid to do the house chores and spend time with kids .............

Hope this will help you

kidslovelymom

I would also suggest u to send ur elder one to some tution so that u can manage other work properly and effectively.

Getting a maid to do your house hold chores will be a better idea as you will be able to pay personal attention to your son...