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I started writing some tips but then I realised that your lil boy is just 2.5 years old so there is not much you could do...he is a baby too....but then this is how you could try to make peace

• send your boy to a play school for 2 -3 hours a day
• engage both the children in the same game ( playing with water, paint,clay,paper etc.)....let your son teach the lil one...(under parent supervision)
• cuddle the bigger boy more .....ur daughter is still small and won't realise mom is cuddling her big bro more than her....

hope these help...but hey...remember he is jus a  baby still....can't expect him to act like a big bro so fast can u ?

Hi fouzi....I met a reputed child pyschiartist on Tuesday, as I am having the same problem with one of my boys...believe it or not, she gave the first 2 points what buzzkgs has just mentioned... the essence of the instructions she gave is as follows:

- Peer group interaction is very importat for children...put them in a creche or play school dor 2 hours each day...take them to park in the evenings where they can play a lot.

- Engage your son as much as possible...just see to it that someone keeps talking or playing with him

- Be kind but firm...protect your daughter and stop your son when he attempts to hit her even if he disappointed....

- Ignore unwanted/manipulative behaviour of your son regarding getting his things done by you...let him throw all his tantrums, but after settling down, explain to him the reason why it had to be your way...

- Praise and re-inforce good behaviour

- NEVER EVER find faults or blame others infront of you...

Above all, when I told her that I wanted to raise the twins as united children, she said that is something which we can't aim at now...as they grow, they will understand each other...in your case, it could be easier as your son could soon develop "elder brother'  protective psychology...

Well said Buzzgks and Arun amma

One point which crossed my mind is , pls never be partial to any of them . this would create rivalary attitude in the minds of the children which may not be able to detect now but later it would be a promblematic issue.

Justify both of them equally , donot differentiate by their gender or age. give equal chances while they play even if they are small.

I repeat the same point of buzz and aruna amma NOT  to find faults in front of other. try to stop them in a polite manner and advice when they are alone .

All these are a temporary issue between brothers and sisters, just try to create a sense of sharing between them thats it. u will find wonders in future

Pamper your elder son more than the younger for some time and praise him in front of other elders, that he is an excellent kid and takes care of his sister very well. It works. I tried that with my kids.