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 As far as I know there is nothing emotional. men/women in general are more courteous with the opposite gender. Petty egos which arise between man-man- women-women doesnt arise when they both are from opposite gender.So they become good friends. And the natural magnetism keeps them together.

My hub had a good friend in his coimbatore office. She was married and had two kids,she was ofcourse too pretty when I looked below average. Her hub knows my hub and I too know that they are good friends. They do crack jokes during breaks at office,travel in the same company bus,she has sent forwarded messages,shared music cds,educational cds for kids... When my hub went back to work after his leg fracture,she always reserved him a place to sit and sometimes would even hold the bus if he takes time to walk slowly-he'll inform her in mob and she'll ask the driver to wait for few seconds. I know they were just friends but had  lil magnetism between them( sometimes erichala dan varum ..but I know they both are responsible and love their families basically..so vitruven). while my hub was little sad to leave coimbatore office she was happy that she got transferred to the head office which was very close by her home-he was even sort of irritated that she never missed him.Now they seldom call each other,only a newyear,festive wish or help in professional way. He got busy in his new job and she excited that she doesnt have to travel for hours.

I have worked only in schools and the bpo in which I worked ,I was the eldest and I have almost forgotten what a city life is, even when I was born and brought up in chennai so I dont know to say much about this. But I feel man/women attraction is natural even if there isint anything candlestine or dirty.

 Have you noticed?  only women talk about platonic relationships... about the sanctity of it.. 

Have you seen any MAN with same opinion about platonic relationships?  For MOST men, its either black or white.. nothing in between....  and hence it becomes tough to maintain the relationship platonic.. and if at all they plan to continue as platonic, it all lies in the hands of the female.  If she has a clear picture of it, and is strong enough .. this continues as platonic.  Working as a medical representative before marriage, i had most of my friends from this Martian group.. They all were real good friends and nothing emotional... I really had no problem with them, but rather could understand that species better, which helped me a lot in managing my male colleagues in my jobs after marriage, and also mainly the typical Martian at home.

Or if there are more than one friends, or the person has very good friends in opposite sex, they have low risks... but have you seen those who rarely speak to the opposite sex, but maintains one platonic relationship?.... chances are thin that they continue like that.. maybe one or two anywhere in the corner of the world...

another funny thing that i have found in offices are this brother sister relationships .. avan enakku anna mathiri.. iva enakku thankachi mathiri... we had a typical example in our office... these pasamalarkal always had lunch together.. if this anna says her dress is not good.. she will never wear it again... she waits until this anna finishes his job and they go home together, went to temple on anna's birthdays.... as time went, this thankachi stopped communicating with anyone else other than her anna.. though anna had his own friend circle.

One day we saw this thankachi crying .. and came to know that her anna was getting married to a girl his family chose for him.  All asked her why should she cry when her brother is getting married... some (those who never even talked to her before) asked if she is not going to see her "anni..." Also we found that this Anna has suruttified so much of money from this thangachi...

One who has good friends in both sexes, one who can judge people, one who know to keep people in the orbits they deserve, can have healthy platonic relationships.

But in this case, when both are married, and are working in different offices..... ..!!! I don't know .. as you said, maybe I am also too conservative...

Well, right now i am not working...but the best of male friends i got when i was working.... I really have a very few good friends maybe around 3[i mean they mean a lot to me] so to say out of which one is a male friend. All of us are friends as a circle and met in office. Its been around 6 years of rock solid friendship and we do keep in touch.. Our family knows each other and we do hang out with each other. OUR relationship is purely platonic and ONLY friendship. We did use to have lunch together and wait for each other. Hence I can say that relationships with the people of MARS can be tricky but then we can have real fun if we get along well with them and also draw the line wherever necessary !!

Hmmm...so to speak..I have actually never had a good male friend except my darling husband. Even at my workplace, I maintain a certain distance with male and female colleagues alike. Somehow find it very difficult to talk just for the sake of it.

During my college days, all of my male classmates have either proposed or sight addicchified me ...So no chance of platonic relationship....

I dont have enough experience to comment on it. But still, I think it all depends on the person per se!

Nisha, thamil, srividya and dhaarini, thanks for the replies..

thamil, as u ve mentioned in the 'biriyani or pulav' blog(!!), serious issues are avoided here..so thanks that atleast u gals spoke ur mind.. "I know they were just friends but had  lil magnetism between them"   Wow..! u are so mature and understanding.. Ur hubs is very lucky.. In ur situation, i might have made life hell for my hubby...!

Nisha, i too feel that there is no "black or white" for a man...Even in a movie i saw recently on tv, there was a scene where the male says to the ex-gf, i cant think of u as a "friend"!!

Hmmm..going by what thamil and srividya hv said, maybe the 'couple' of my office, are, well, maybe ''just friends''...?!

Thanks for ur responses, again..